The diagnosis
I was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in September 2016. It came as a huge shock as I’d just gone through 5 years of remission. I’d had a sore neck since April, but thought I’d just done something whilst power walking. After 8 physios, 4 osteos, an x-ray, and an MRI nothing was picked up. Finally, I went to have a cortisone injection in my neck for the pain and a mass was discovered in my C1.
Me and my family
I am a solo mum to two teenage daughters. We are very close and enjoy spending time together.
I love going to the movies, reading, power walking, shopping and spending time with family and friends. I still work full time as a receptionist.
The impact of cancer on my life…
I have coped with cancer through the 5 stages of grief
Denial – this isn’t happening to me again
Anger – reality sets in and I’m damn angry and worried about my daughters’ futures
Bargaining – during this stage I thought of things I could have done – walked more, drank less alcohol, ate different food. If only I’d been less stressed…
Depression – I feel sadness as I think of not being in my daughters lives and missing out on their marriages and children. I also feel sadness that I’ll not grow old with my brothers.
Acceptance – acceptance that my illness is terminal, but hope that I can fight this and can live awhile longer and watch my girls grow into young adults.
My current goals
I want to make memories with my family and friends and to live life to its fullest. I’ve made a bucket list and my family and friends are helping me to complete it. I’m aiming for more holidays to wonderful places I’ve never been to. Finally the biggest goal is to be here for both my daughters’ 21st birthdays.
How I stay resilient…
I never give up!!! I research new facts, theories and alternative ideas to blend with current medical treatment. I keep to a routine with my girls so they are not burdened with my illness. Knowing my family love me and have my back gives me a lot of strength.
I can’t do without…
My daughters – they give me the strength and hope to fight this disease.
What Sweet Louise has made possible for me…
Sweet Louise are an amazing support system and very generously help me with vouchers for cleaners as I can’t bend down to do vacuuming/floors or clean the shower. I have also used their vouchers for a meditation course which helps balance stress and stillness. I had the opportunity to attend their forum in March this year. I was inspired by their amazing guest speakers and came away feeling motivated to tackle this disease in every way possible.
My best piece of advice to members –
Live your dream now, make memories that your family and friends will remember. Tell your family you love them every day. Have no regrets ❤❤.